Have you
ever felt so ashamed of yourself, of the way you look that you can’t bear to go
outside? Family events are missed; friends invites are ignored, pleas for you
to attend social gatherings are refused. Invites of any description are met
with a sense of dread, immediately you start to picture the clothes in your
wardrobe, knowing that no matter what you do in the next 2 weeks, you’ll never
be able to fit back into that dress that used to cover your belly, or squeeze
into those jeans that make your bum look smaller; it is simply no good, you
don’t want to embarrass whichever of your friends is celebrating after all, you know that they don’t really
want to spend time with their friends, they want to spend time with their thin,
well dressed friends. Have you ever felt like you just don’t want to leave the
house because you’re simply just too fat?!
No me
neither!
Now let me
explain, I am definitely fat. Let’s not skirt around the issue trying hard to
find a word that won’t offend, I suppose if the word fat makes you feel
uncomfortable you could describe me as ‘plump’, ‘a bigger lady’, or maybe even
just ‘bubbly’.
Whatever word you use, it won’t change the fact that I am fat. I am fat
and I have never ever once felt ashamed or like I can’t go outside because of
that. Now let me first say, for medical reasons I am currently trying to get
healthy (which will inevitably mean losing some weight), but recently I have
begun to get so pissed off with the number of TV adverts, articles and celebrities
that tell all of us (not even just overweight people), that if we get super
skinny, life will be amazing and we’ll stop feeling rubbish and will want to go
out and socialise more.
Adverts for
weight loss programs are the worst, normally ex customers tell us how fabulous
they feel after they've dropped 2 dress sizes, now they can go to that Christmas party – meaning before they would
have had to stay at home with their cats? These adverts are full of women who
in their before photo have no makeup on, messy hair, baggy clothes and a face
that looks like someone has just pissed on their shoes, whilst the wonderful
‘after diet’ shots are the same women done up in a well fitted outfit.
Now if you've used one of the many many weight loss group meeting type
programmes and that has worked for you – well done, I’m very happy for you and
I wish you well with your goals, but please stop taking over my TV telling me
how hard you found it to go out when you were fat, how you missed so many
parties… I resent the idea that if I were to wake up tomorrow having
miraculously lost 3 stone somehow I’d become a totally different person, I can
confidently say it wouldn't change who I am, just how other people see me.
I’m fat, I’m
social and I LOVE to party!
For me there
is one thing that I always wear when I go to a party – a smile and a little bit
of confidence.
So come on
my chubby, bubbly, bigger friends. This festive season; please don’t let those
adverts get you down. Stick on a party dress, dig out those heals, paint on a
bright lippy and plaster on that smile!
You are beautiful inside and out – and
anyone who really matters will know that anyway.
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